Tips for Overcoming Perfectionism

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Perfection is impossible by sheer definition. Yet we strive for it and berate ourselves when we fall short. It's okay to have high standards and want success; it's when perfection starts to affect your relationships or becomes a phobia of making mistakes that it becomes a problem. The way you react to your mistakes and failings can often differentiate healthy ambition from unhealthy perfectionism.

Researchers have said that extreme perfectionism can become a habit similar to compulsive behaviors like smoking, drinking and gambling. "The unrelenting standards that drive the perfectionist may create a temporary 'high,' but ultimately leave him feeling flat," explains Laura Alper, a clinical social worker in practice for over 30 years. It has also been associated with depression, anxiety, sleep and digestive problems, eating disorders and even suicidal thoughts.

Like addiction, perfectionism can have negative effects on your relationships, says Ann W. Smith, a licensed family counselor and author of Overcoming Perfectionism: Finding the Key to Balance & Self-Acceptance. Perfectionists often have trouble working with others and delegating to people who they believe will be unable to meet their exacting (and potentially unrealistic) standards. They easily get defensive against constructive criticism and find it hard to ask for help. At home, they struggle with intimacy for fear of vulnerability, are often dissatisfied with their significant others and can put undue pressure on their children to be perfect, too.

The good news is you can identify your perfectionist tendencies and take action. First, you must assess the extent of your perfectionism and how it is affecting your life. Are your incredibly high standards interfering with your connection with other people? Do you think that if you make the slightest mistake it makes you a failure? Do you procrastinate doing certain things out of the fear of appearing flawed? Do people tell you you're impossible to please?

If those questions resonate with you, it may be time to address your perfectionist behavior. Here are some tips for overcoming perfectionism.

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SOURCE: The Huffington Post
Danielle Hark for YouBeauty
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